This article explains how we often turn common stress into overwhelming anxiety.
-My boss critiqued me therefore I'm going to get fired.
-I failed a test and now I'm never going to get into college.
-My friends made plans without me so I must be I'm a loser.
-I missed that open goal/easy jump shot/save/split/pass/catch... so now I suck at soccer/basketball/hockey/sprinting/lacrosse/football...
Our brain regularly creates unrealistic conclusions based on minimal evidence. I always ask clients, "What evidence do you have to support that thought or belief?" Failure and the subsequent stress are an inevitable part of school, work, sports, and life. It is a lot easier to manage stress and bounce back when we do not add fuel (exaggerated thoughts) to the fire (stress.)