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Distorting Your Reality/Adding Fuel to the Fire

6/25/2016

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https://blogs.psychcentral.com/stress-better/2014/11/forget-positive-thinking-try-this-to-curb-teen-anxiety/

This article explains how we often turn common stress into overwhelming anxiety.
-My boss critiqued me therefore I'm going to get fired.
-I failed a test and now I'm never going to get into college.
-My friends made plans without me so I must be I'm a loser.
-I missed that open goal/easy jump shot/save/split/pass/catch... so now I suck at soccer/basketball/hockey/sprinting/lacrosse/football...

Our brain regularly creates unrealistic conclusions based on minimal evidence. I always ask clients, "What evidence do you have to support that thought or belief?" Failure and the subsequent stress are an inevitable part of school, work, sports, and life. It is a lot easier to manage stress and bounce back when we do not add fuel (exaggerated thoughts) to the fire (stress.)
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Falling Down: Become Weak or Get Strong

6/25/2016

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Inspiration can come from unlikely sources. This post was inspired by Henry Marsh's book "Do No Harm" and the 30 Seconds To Mars song "Alibi." My summer reading started with Marsh's book. He is a leading neurosurgeon and has operated on countless brains. His book gives an honest and unfiltered account of the psychological highs and lows experienced by a doctor who, every day, holds another person's life in his hands. He speaks of the tremendous ego and God-like complex needed to take the risks involved with brain surgery, along with the fear, depression, and inner pain that occurs when his decisions or mistakes cause paralysis or death. In order to become a successful brain surgeon, one must be able to emotionally recover from the most horrific failures over and over again.

I interpret the 30 Seconds To Mars song "Alibi" as an exploration of what happens when things don't go according as planned. "Crashing and burning, the inevitable end, and trial by fire" are all expressions for facing adversity and failing. But Jared Leto's chorus is "I fell apart, but got back up again."

The question that stirred in my head while reading this book and listening to this song is "Do you get weaker or stronger when you repeatedly fall down?" Most peple would be unfit to be a brain surgeon. Living with the pain of knowing that your mistake or accident caused someone's death is a psychological burden too great for most people. When describing the psychological make up of a neurosurgeon, Marsh says, "I suspect that you've got to be a bit of a psychopath to carry on, or at least have a pretty thick skin." His failures cause catastrophy at the highest level. However, we've all failed in our respective areas of life: school, friendships, marriages, work, finances, job interviews, personal health, sports... As I question how we respond to failure on a general psychological level, I encourage you to question how you respond to failure on a personal level. Have your failures made you weaker and caused you to become depressed, fearful, and ultimately reluctant to work harder and try again? Or have you your failures made you stronger and caused you to become smarter, a better problem solver, more resilient, and ultimately work harder to try again?

Alibi
No warning sign, no alibi.
Were fading faster than the speed of light.
Took our chance, crashed and burned.
No, we'll never ever learn.

I fell apart, but got back up again,
And then I fell apart, but got back up again, yeah.

We both could see crystal clear
That the inevitable end was near.
Made our choice, a trial by fire,
To battle is the only way we feel alive.

I fell apart, but got back up again,
And then I fell apart, but got back up again,
And then I fell apart, but got back up again.

So here we are, the witching hour,
The quickest t tongue to divide and devour.
Divide and devour.

If I could end the quest for fire,
For truth, for love, and my desire.
My soul.

And I fell apart, but got back up again.
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Constant Stimulation and Tolerating Boredom

6/17/2016

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Technology and over-planning have deterred kids from developing the ability to tolerate boredom. Many children struggle with not being faced with constant high stimulation. Smart phones and I-Pads offer children readily available and unceasing games, websites, and video clips. Problems arise when there aren't limits placed on usage. Technology deprives kids from developing the coping skills necessary to tolerate boredom. Kids who spend all free time in front of a screen do not have to problem solve when forced to create some form of entertainment.

The attached article also discusses the pitfalls of parental over-planning every summer activity for their children.

http://qz.com/704723/to-be-more-self-reliant-children-need-boring-summers/
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The Art of Therapy

6/9/2016

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​These ideas are applicable to most, if not all, professions.

There is an art to conducting therapy. It is a craft that requires awareness, intelligence, passion and discipline. The passion is fueled by the joy experienced when the therapist makes a unique interpretation transforming the perception of the client. An interpretation that shines a bright light on something previously concealed by the dark. An interpretation powerful enough to evoke emotion so strong it becomes the catalyst for behavioral change. Strong enough to begin the process of stopping bad habits of the mind and behavior while inspiring the arduous journey of forming new habits that are going to lead to the client to be more at peace with her/himself. That is the fun and energizing part of the art, but there is still the difficult discipline necessary to reach the heights of being a good therapist. The foundation for the discipline of therapy is created in grad school. The discipline is built through hours in the classroom, in the library, in internships, writing a dissertation, and forcing the mind to understand. But that is not enough. A good therapist cannot become stagnant after grad school. A good therapist must constantly challenge his/her own mind, recognize and improve weaknesses, and experience the stress of being a psychologist, all the while not giving up or taking short cuts. The discipline and passion come together when inspiration is found in the traditional: books, articles, workshops... But inspiration can also be hidden in plain sight, in nontraditional sources: music, nature, exercise, other professionals outside of psychology…

Now apply these same principles to your profession or passion.
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One Physiological Effect of Music

6/8/2016

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The link below leads to an article describing the chills sensation (frisson) most people have experienced feel with powerful music. It is something that, if harnessed and reproduced, can impact performance on the field. Some people liken it to an adrenaline rush which can motivate and push athletes to be their best. I often encourage athletes to use music in their pregame routing to pump them up and this article explains some of the underlying biological principles.

http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/06/these-are-the-people-most-likely-to-get-the-chills-from-sad-music.html
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A Culture of Stress

6/8/2016

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This article does a nice job explaining the function and impact of the stress hormone, cortisol, which is helpful if introduced into the body on a limited basis because it prepares the body for action. This process is normal when we experience stress as it pops up from time to time. What is not normal is when we perceive stress all the time by perpetually imagining worst case scenarios. Under these conditions cortisol can become toxic with side effects like agitation, fatigue, poor focus, lowered self-esteem, clinical anxiety, and major depression.

http://dartnewsonline.com/70704/features/a-culture-of-stress/
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